father may have simpler time to get baby to take bottle (source)
My two children never would accept a bottle, and it wasn’t for any lack of trying on my part. When our pal Crystal asked about any magic techniques that would get her third baby to take bottle, I sent her a list of ideas in hopes that at least one of mine would be one that she had not yet tried.
My baby’s bottle-refusal story
My spouse Ryan got traumatized by trying to give the baby the bottle and having him yell his head off, so after numerous consecutive attempts in our process of getting ready for me to go back to work, he sort of gave up and then later blamed himself for this no-bottle-taking baby problem which lasted for 8 months. While he blamed himself, it was actually my problem to solve, because who was taking the boobs to work with her everyday?
Yep, at 4 months old, I went back to work for half-days, five days a week, and left my nanny to try all methods of bottle feeding for four hours. She ended up spoon-feeding him breast milk from a bowl with a tiny infant spoon. She was able to get about an ounce in him that way. By 5 months old, we agreed to sprinkle a little rice cereal into it so that it had much more calories and stayed on the spoon better. At 6 months old, I extended my work hours to a 6 hour day, and she’d give him rice cereal in a bowl, attempt the bottle ordeal, and then a little actual food, ie avocado or banana. At 8 months, he was eating solids just fine and I told her to forget about the bottle and let’s just relocation towards the sippy cup.
13 bottle-feeding techniques worth trying for breast-obsessed infants:
non-breastfeeding parent gives bottle in cradle position
breastfeeding parent gives bottle in cradle position
non-breastfeeding caregiver tries while mother leaves house with other children
while driving/carseat (mom drives, parent #2 sits in back and gives bottle)
while facing out in a front carrier
facing out in a front carrier outdoors
when baby is very hungry
when baby is not whatsoever hungry, ie best after nursing
different nipples, including latex and silicon, symmetrical like avent and mouth-shaped like mam/nuk
while baby is sleeping, shove it in her mouth and see if you can activate sucking reflex
bottle of formula if you’re typically providing breast milk
rub breast milk on the nipple before putting it to her lips
future: for older baby like 5-7 months, soft transitional sippy cup top
Okay with throwing some money at the problem? (I was!) A smart mother put together this bundle (available on Amazon) called first Foods and it’s a variety of bottles and nipples so you can try everything to find what works.
The pleased ending: siblings give a bottle
I was so pleased to get an update from Crystal this week, letting us know that her daughter had finally begun accepting a bottle.
What worked? A trick I didn’t have access to with my rookie baby: Crystal’s six-year old child gave his baby sister a bottle. Her middle child got a chance as well.
Here’s what she said about baby Vivian’s experience taking a bottle from her brothers:
She was so distracted and fascinated by them that she forgot to fight it and took her first bottle from them. That helped her get over the initial hump and indicated to us that she could do it.
Then getting to her with the bottle before she was the least bit cranky. If she was fussy in the smallest there was no way she was taking it.
She refused for a long time to take it from daddy but we tried at the same time everyday. For weeks she fussed, took two sips then refused the rest. then one day she drank the whole thing. I think it was the consistency? She eventually got used to the idea?
We tried a few different models but of course, she finally took to the Playtex nurser.
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